April 11, 2011
To be needed by the needy....
Everyone has a desire to be needed. It feels good when you are needed. But to what degree? I noticed this a lot between my mom and I. She wants so much to be needed but sometimes when I ask her for help, and this mainly applies to sewing something for me or decorating a cake, she acts like I have asked her to move the moon. :) I never learned to sew. Had no desire to sew and quite frankly if someone else can do it why should I have to? My mom is the best at both of these things. She can alter or repair an outfit like nobody's business. And her cakes?... They are much better than most professionals. The thing that bothers me is that when she acts put out and I offer to have someone else do it she immediately puts up a defense and is all "No I will do it."
Uhm...Okay?? I wasn't trying to put you out and I don't mind paying someone else to do it, you are just the best. I understand how she feels though. We want so badly to be needed but we want it to be on our own terms and with only things we want to help with. :) My mom would do ANYTHING for me, just some things she would rather not do. I would do ANYTHING for my daughter or Brad, but some things I would rather not do....especially if they are quite capable.
Mornings are the worst time ever to want a favor from me. I will be more than happy to help you AFTER I am ready for the day. I know it takes me a ridiculous amount of time to get ready....an hour and a half to be exact. This includes showering, drying and styling my hair, makeup, eating breakfast, brushing my teeth, finally deciding what to wear, letting the dogs out, doing a load of laundry, and not rushing around. So at night before I go to sleep, I set my alarm with enough time to have 1.5 hours to get ready. No wiggle room allowed.
When daughter and husband get up and are all "Will you fix my hair?" "Will you pour my cereal?" "Will you iron my clothes?" "Where is this?"....I don't have time for that. Get yourself ready. :)
Then when it is all said and done and I have helped them they look at me when it is time to leave and wonder why I am not ready and get mad because we will be late to where ever we were supposed to be.
Sigh....It is so much fun to be needed. Pretty soon I won't have to worry about rushing around everyday. Three more weeks until I am a stay at home mom.....and will be needed ALL the time...but she can't make her own toast, won't have any hair, doesn't need her clothes ironed and doesn't care where anything is. LOL :) Woo hoo.
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